Me and Sophie: Walking

Ah, the blank page. How it stares back at us. I have been away for a long time.

Never very far, occasionally peeking in to see what others are doing. Away mostly because I needed to recharge and the only way to do that was to step back. Way back. Then learn to walk a different way.


I became a Grand Aunt last year, and Sophie is the light of life. She’s an old soul. And she knows it. The whole dynamic of the family changed when she arrived 10 months ago.

My brother became ill and gave us quite a scare, things have definitely been different for all of us. He’s fine, just needed to make adjustments, and although the concern for him is great, I tear up every time I watch him with his first grandchild.

I spent last Saturday with her, reaching for me immediately when I walked in the door. She wanted nothing to do with anyone else. It caught me by surprise because she wasn’t feeling well and she was cranky, and her parents were away for the weekend taking a break so I figured she would only want Grampa or Gramma. But she clung to me all day.  When she got upset or afraid, she came to me. She was up and down, in my arms and then wanting to be on the floor. She never really crawled, she likes someone to hold her hands and let her walk around. A little wobbly so she held my hand and we walked all over the house most of the day. But I knew she was ready to go it alone. It was the moment where you recognize that they are only holding your hand out of fear. They just don’t know their own ability yet, they need to be encouraged to move forward alone and be reassured that they will be ok. Now she’s running back and forth, flailing her arms about and laughing the whole time. She’s fearless. Her sass is strong. She can’t be stopped. (Kinda like her auntie?)

About the time she was born, I relocated to a 150 year old home in peaceful, quiet community of Illinois. Close enough to civilization, but tucked away. My family is not too far away and I am surrounded by the best new friends I would have never met had I remained where I was, or had moved to place where I was not meant to be.

Now I have spent the last 10 years wanting to leave Illinois. But because of Sophie and my brother, I don’t want to be very far away. Besides, Sophie is going to be a big sister nearer the end of the year, and I won’t miss it. Life is such a mystery at times.

During my writing break, I worked part-time for a Midwest winery and over the course of only one year, became a Sommelier. I discovered a passion for winemaking and wine education, that interestingly enough, I never discovered the entire six years I lived near California wine country.  I have a long way to go in certification levels, and have no idea how far I will be able to go, but I’m in the flow and following the right path. The goal this year is to become certified in Napa Valley wine as a specialty and continue to pursue the master levels. Lots of studying ahead.

Not sure where any of it will take me, and that’s ok.  I only know that I have to be around to watch Sophie walk her own path.


Cairenn Rhys, Spirited Quill


2 thoughts on “Me and Sophie: Walking

  1. It’s great to hear from you after a long hiatus. The picture of Sophie is so cute. I think my kids at that age, especially my daughter. They will grow up faster than you will realize.

    I’m glad things are going well for you. It sounds like the break did some good. There have been times where I had to step away from writing and collect myself. The stresses aren’t anywhere close to what you went through, but a break was needed. I had to figure out what I wanted from my life, which sounds silly that I would ask myself such a question at this stage of my life. But I needed to find a balance with all that’s going on in my life. I’m still trying to find that balance. In the meantime, I keep plugging away at my writing, stealing time to myself to get words down.

    I look forward to hearing more from you and the journey that you’ve taken.

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